Elisabeth Badinter Examining changing role models for masculine identity—from cowboy in the 1950s to Terminator in the 1990s, from flesh-and-blood man to machine—this book suggests that men need new role models and that sufficient room needs to be left for the expression of male vulnerability, a psychic space that would accept attitudes and behaviors traditionally labeled as "feminine." This new model, Badinter argues, may reduce the profound effects of homophobia and misogyny.

Timothy Beneke Is male chauvinism a natural byproduct of American masculinity, or does it reflect a deeper pain and fear at the heart of gender relations? With sensitivity and honesty, Timothy Beneke, author of Men on Rape, frames the issue of sexism as a problem of masculinity, one deeply rooted in cultural ideals of manhood and forever opposed to the feminine. Men are required to "prove" their masculinity daily from childhood on. They are forced to endure situations of stress and distress that demonstrate their strength and unflappable endurance. In rituals such as sports, sex, and work, men constantly invent and renew their masculine identities as they learn to repress and reject all "feminized" behavior. Pornography, homophobia, and the morning sports section become crucial "proving grounds" where masculinity is tested and asserted.

Beneke argues that men demonstrate the attitudes that underlie sexism in the psychically related practices of reading the sports page and pornographic magazines. In both, men can test their manhood vicariously. Following the lives and careers of athletes religiously in the sports pages, men celebrate and identify with the physical endurance and strength that is at the core of the masculine ideal from the safety of their living rooms. Gazing at languishing nudes in Playboy, men similarly identify with an ideal of masculine prowess and superiority safe from any threatening manifestations of female sexuality. Beneke negotiates the minefield of sexual politics with intelligence and skill. He draws extensively on his experience as an anti-rape activist to understand the roots of male aggression. With personal anecdotes of hero-worship and guilt over his own struggle with latent sexism, Beneke incorporates a thought-provoking self critique into this unique study of modern masculinity.

Bob Berkowitz Fantasies men are reluctant to share with even their most intimate sexual partners.

Never before has there been a book that so frankly depicts sexual fantasies from the mate's point of view. In His Secret Life, Bob Berkowitz, the former host of CNBC's call-in sex talk show Real Personal, surveyed men across the nation who revealed more than seventy uncensored sexual secrets, fantasies, and innermost desires without apology or reservation. Each one provides encouragement and reassurance to men — and unique insight for women as to what really makes men tick!

Shocking, fun, and illuminating all at once, His Secret Life finally tears down the "testosterone curtain." It's guaranteed to have tongues wagging and temperatures rising as it challenges misconceptions about men and sexuality that have survived for generations.

Susan Bordo An exciting new popular study of the male body—fresh, honest, and full of revelations

In this surprising, candid cultural analysis, Susan Bordo begins with a frank, tender look at her own father's body and goes on to perceptively scrutinize the presentation of maleness in everyday life.

Men's (and women's) ideas about men's bodies are heavily influenced by society's expectations, and Bordo helps us understand where those ideas come from. In chapters on the penis (in all its incarnations), fifties Hollywood, male beauty standards, and sexual harassment, and in discussions of topics ranging from Marlon Brando and Boogie Nights to Philip Roth and Lady Chatterley's Lover, Bordo offers fresh and unexpected insights. Always—whether she is examining Michael Jordan or Humbert Humbert, the butch phallus or her own grade-school experiences—she rejects rigid categories in favor of an honest, nuanced version of men as flesh-and-blood human beings.

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Matthew C. Gutmann In this compelling and readable study of machismo in one of Latin America's most populous cities, Matthew Gutmann overturns many stereotypes of male culture in Mexico. In their place he offers a sensitive, wide-ranging, often surprising look at how Mexican men see themselves, parent their children, relate to women, socialize among themselves, and talk about sex in their daily lives. Gutmann finds that men and women are responding to sweeping social forces in Mexico, just as they are in the United States, with women often initiating changes in male attitudes and behaviors.

The Meanings of Macho takes the reader into Santo Domingo, Mexico City, the working-class neighborhood where Gutmann and his family lived. Exploring women's conceptions about men as well as men's ideas about themselves, Gutmann uncovers intriguing, complicated sexual politics among friends and informants. He discovers that, against stereotype, many men's nuanced, complicated sense of sexual identity encompasses considerable child care responsibilities and recognition of a newfound female autonomy. He also considers the kinds of homosocial space men are afforded in their culture, how violence against women plays itself out in this community, and the role of alcohol in male socializing.

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Over 7,000 men, ages thirteen to ninety-seven, speak out about: What they think of women—as wives, lovers, and friends; why a majority of men like marriage but are not faithful; what they think about love—and why they often distrust it; how they feel about giving women clitoral stimulation; why they often masturbate even with a regular sex life...and more.

Roger Horrocks This book studies some of the important myths of masculinity in popular culture, including the western, the horror film, rock music and pornography. The book begins with an assessment of some of the key theoretical issues in gender studies and cultural studies, including identification between subject and text, and the debate over the male subject position and the female object position in patriarchal culture.

Michael Kimmel The passage from adolescence to adulthood was once clear. Today, growing up has become more complex and confusing, as young men drift casually through college and beyond—hanging out, partying, playing with tech toys, watching sports. But beneath the appearance of a simple extended boyhood, a more dangerous social world has developed, far away from the traditional signposts and cultural signals that once helped boys navigate their way to manhood—a territory Michael Kimmel has identified as "Guyland."

In mapping the troubling social world where men are now made, Kimmel offers a view into the minds and times of America's sons, brothers, and boyfriends, and he works toward redefining what it means to be a man today—and tomorrow. Only by understanding this world and this life stage can we enable young men to chart their own paths, stay true to themselves, and emerge safely from Guyland as responsible and fully formed male adults.

Robert Moore, Douglas Gillette Arguing that mature masculinity is not abusive or domineering, but generative, creative, and empowering of the self and others, Moore and Gillette provide a Jungian introduction to the psychological foundations of a mature, authentic, and revitalized masculinity.

Anthony Pietropinto The author of the bestseller Beyond the Male Myth gives readers a revealing look at men's best-kept secrets. The Dream Girl explains why men have so much difficulty establishing and maintaining committed, monogamous relations with women. There is another woman, one who can never be seen but is as formidable a rival as any human.

Rodale Imagine for a moment having the relationship you've always dreamed of: happy, harmonious, fulfilling, fun-and fantastically hot. This book is your key to making all of those dreams a reality. In these pages, you'll learn how to: * Crawl out of your dating rut (page 78) * Cultivate coolness to catch her eye (page 3) * Make that hands-off hottie yours (page 139) * Employ the seven financial habits of highly laid men (page 19) * Make the most satisfying sex position of all time even better (page 85) * Jump-start her lagging libido (page 94) * Keep the home fires burning brightly (page 181) * Dodge bedroom bloopers (page 204) * Have sex with someone new-every night (page 175) Plus lots of other practical advice to help you have the sex of your dreams tonight and every night!

Norah Vincent Following in the tradition of John Howard Griffin (Black Like Me) and Barbara Ehrenreich (Nickel and Dimed), Norah Vincent absorbed a cultural experience and reported back on what she observed incognito. For more than a year and a half she ventured into the world as Ned, with an ever-present five o’clock shadow, a crew cut, wire-rim glasses, and her own size 111/2 shoes—a perfect disguise that enabled her to observe the world of men as an insider. The result is a sympathetic, shrewd, and thrilling tour de force of immersion journalism that’s destined to challenge preconceptions and attract enormous attention.

With her buddies on the bowling league she enjoyed the rough and rewarding embrace of male camaraderie undetectable to an outsider. A stint in a high-octane sales job taught her the gut- wrenching pressures endured by men who would do anything to succeed. She frequented sex clubs, dated women hungry for love but bitter about men, and infiltrated all-male communities as hermetically sealed as a men’s therapy group, and even a monastery. Narrated in her utterly captivating prose style and with exquisite insight, humor, empathy, nuance, and at great personal cost, Norah uses her intimate firsthand experience to explore the many remarkable mysteries of gender identity as well as who men are apart from and in relation to women. Far from becoming bitter or outraged, Vincent ended her journey astounded—and exhausted—by the rigid codes and rituals of masculinity. Having gone where no woman (who wasn’t an aspiring or actual transsexual) has gone for any significant length of time, let alone eighteen months, Norah Vincent’s surprising account is an enthralling reading experience and a revelatory piece of anecdotally based gender analysis that is sure to spark fierce and fascinating conversation.

Bernie Zilbergeld A guide to male sexuality advises readers on enhancing desire, recognizing the conditions for good sex, handling initiation and seduction, focusing on pleasure and not performance, and more. 60,000 first printing.